Why is monogamy in crisis? The animal kingdom could give us some clues | Elle Hunt

A Growing Dissatisfaction with Traditional Monogamy: Can We Learn from Nature?

The idea of monogamy, once considered the gold standard for romantic relationships, has been facing increasing skepticism in recent years. With fewer people opting for lifelong commitments and more individuals exploring alternative forms of partnership, it's natural to wonder if traditional monogamy is simply a relic of our evolutionary past.

In fact, some animal species may hold the key to understanding human relationships better than we think. A study from the University of Cambridge has ranked 35 species according to their level of monogamy, with humans coming in at a respectable but not unbeatable number ten.

However, when looking at other mammals like African wild dogs and moustached tamarins, it becomes clear that our species' affinity for monogamy is not as unique as we might assume. In fact, the Scottish Soay sheep takes the bottom spot on the league table, with each ewe mating with multiple rams.

So what can we learn from these animals? Perhaps our relationship between monogamy and marriage could benefit from a closer look at the beaver's long-term partnership model. Or maybe it's time to reconsider our traditional notion of commitment and instead lean towards a more fluid approach, like that of the California deermouse.

One thing is certain: human relationships are shaped by a complex interplay of biological, cultural, economic, and technological factors. As such, monogamy cannot be reduced to a single definition or model.

As Dr Mark Dyble, author of the Cambridge study, acknowledges, measuring reproductive monogamy only provides a partial picture of our species' mating behavior. Human history has always been characterized by cultural norms that have influenced our approach to sex and relationships – with marriage serving as a means to bind women to men and protect the male line.

What's also worth noting is the diversity within human societies on this topic. While 17% of the world's populations live in strictly monogamous societies, many others have developed alternative forms of partnership that prioritize committed parenting over romantic love.

In conclusion, our growing dissatisfaction with traditional monogamy may be less about a rejection of nature and more about embracing its complexity and diversity. By examining the mating habits of other species, we can gain a deeper understanding of what works for us – and perhaps find new ways to create fulfilling relationships that prioritize mutual support, trust, and communication.
 
Ugh, just read this study on monogamy in animals πŸΎπŸ˜’. Turns out, humans aren't so special after all... 10th on the list of most monogamous species? Not bad, I guess 😐. But what really gets me is that some animals are way more open to non-monogamy than we are 🀯. I mean, have you seen those Scottish Soay sheep mating with multiple rams? Like, what's wrong with a little variety? πŸ’β€β™€οΈ And don't even get me started on the economic factors at play here... all this talk of commitment and marriage just makes me think about how hard it is to make ends meet 😩. Not sure if we can really "lean towards a more fluid approach" when our societies are still super patriarchal πŸ’”.
 
πŸΎπŸ’‘ I was just thinking about beavers yesterday... how they're so good at building those dams but still have to deal with predators like otters and wolves! πŸŒ‰ Like, can you imagine having to work on your relationship every day to keep it from falling apart? πŸ˜‚ But seriously, I've been reading this amazing book on animal behavior and it's crazy to think about how much we can learn from them. Did you know that some species of birds are polygynous and will just switch partners when they want something new? πŸ“ Like, talk about a dating app! πŸ˜‚
 
I'm literally obsessed with this topic! Like, I was reading about the beaver's partnership model and it's so genius πŸ΅πŸ’‘. They're like, super committed to each other but also have a say in who they mate with. It's all about finding that balance, you know? And it's crazy how humans have always been stuck on traditional monogamy while animals are out here doing their own thing πŸ˜‚. I mean, the Scottish Soay sheep is like the ultimate wild card 🀣. But for real, this study has me thinking - what if we've been approaching relationships all wrong? What if we need to rethink our whole commitment thing and prioritize mutual support and trust? Ugh, my mind is racing πŸ’­πŸ‘€
 
πŸ€” I mean think about it, humans are not that special when it comes to relationships. Like seriously, the Scottish Soay sheep is at the bottom of the list and they're still managing just fine without some human-like commitment system. And have you noticed how all these examples are like, beavers and California deermice? They're like, totally laid back about their relationships, but we're always stressing out about ours. It's like our society is just trying to control us or something. Maybe this whole monogamy thing is just a way for the powers that be to keep us in line? πŸ€‘
 
omg i love how this study is making us question traditional monogamy πŸ€”πŸ‘€ it's like, humans are so complex! i mean we have a lot of animal friends out there doing their own thing & we can learn from them for sure. maybe the beavers' partnership model could work for us? or who knows maybe we just need to redefine what commitment means in today's world πŸ’–πŸ’ͺ
 
Meh, humans are weird πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ... I mean, if you look at other animals, it's all about adapting to your environment and what works best for you. Like, beavers are low-key amazing engineers πŸ΅πŸŒ‰, but that doesn't mean they're the ultimate relationship goal. We need to stop trying to fit a square peg (monogamy) into a round hole (human relationships). It's time to get comfy with not having all the answers and just roll with it πŸ’β€β™€οΈ...
 
I'm not sure I buy into the idea that traditional monogamy is just a relic of our evolutionary past πŸ€”. I mean, don't get me wrong, it's definitely not as universal as we think. But maybe instead of writing off monogamy altogether, we should be looking at how different species approach relationships in their own unique ways? Like the beavers' long-term partnerships seem pretty awesome - they're like the ultimate power couple πŸ’•! And I agree that human history is all about cultural norms and influences, so it's not just about biology or nature. It's also about how our societies value things like love, trust, and loyalty. Maybe we can learn from other species, but we should also be open to finding new ways to create fulfilling relationships that work for us 🌈.
 
idk about this whole monogamy thing... πŸ€” I mean, think about it, animals like African wild dogs & moustached tamarins are literally all about the mate switchin' life πŸ’β€β™€οΈπŸ’•, but humans are all like "oh no, we can't have that, we gotta be faithful" πŸ˜‚. And then there's this whole beaver thing, where they're all like "hey, we're committed to each other, but also we're willing to share our lodges with some random beaver who comes along πŸΎπŸ’•". It's like, what even is our definition of commitment? πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ And don't even get me started on this whole marriage thing... it's like, a social construct, you know? We use it to control women and all that πŸ’β€β™€οΈπŸ‘‘. Anyways, I guess what I'm saying is, let's not be so quick to dismiss the idea of non-monogamy πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈ. Maybe we can learn something from our furry friends πŸΎπŸ’‘...
 
πŸ€” I mean, think about it - we're humans, one of the most intelligent species around, but we're basically just copying other animals when it comes to our relationship rules πŸΎπŸ’•? It's like we're still trying to figure out how to live together in harmony. And let's be real, who needs a traditional marriage when you've got beavers building dams and California deermice doing their own thing? πŸ˜‚ I'm all for exploring new ways of partnering up that work better for us as individuals and as a society. It's time to ditch the one-size-fits-all monogamy model and get creative with our relationships πŸŽ¨πŸ’«
 
I'm really not sure I agree with this article πŸ€”... Monogamy might be old news but it's still a fundamental part of how we humans form relationships, you know? I mean, what about all the single parents out there? The ones who are doing an amazing job raising their kids on their own? It feels like we're just starting to accept that not everyone fits into this traditional model and it's kinda liberating 🌈. We need to focus on what works for us as individuals and communities, rather than trying to cram everyone into some arbitrary definition of "monogamy". And yeah, let's learn from the beavers! Who wouldn't want to live in a cozy little lodge with their partner? 😊 But seriously, it's time we started valuing honesty, respect, and trust over just being part of a certain type of relationship. Can't we all just get along? πŸ€—
 
🐾 animals are always a good source of inspiration 🌱 i feel like humans have become too rigid in our approach to relationships, you know? we need to be more open to trying different things and seeing what works for us. monogamy might not be the only way forward... and btw, who needs one ewe per ram when you can have a whole herd of loving partners πŸ‘πŸ’–
 
I'm not sure I'm on board with this whole "learning from nature" thing πŸ€”. I mean, just because some animals are polyamorous doesn't mean humans have to be too πŸ˜‚. And what's with the idea that we need to abandon traditional monogamy altogether? I think it's more about understanding our own complexities and flaws as a species rather than trying to emulate some furry creature 🐻. And don't even get me started on the beaver model – who needs that much commitment? πŸ™…β€β™‚οΈ Plus, isn't the whole point of marriage and monogamy about creating a lifelong bond with someone you love, not just about following some arbitrary animal instinct? ❀️ I'm all for exploring new forms of partnership, but let's not throw the baby out with the bathwater just yet 🚽.
 
i think this is a pretty cool topic πŸ€”... i mean, who knew beavers were into long-term partnerships? lol... but seriously, humans are so complicated when it comes to love & relationships... maybe we should just learn to accept that what works for one person or another isn't always gonna work for us too. and yeah, the diversity within human societies on this topic is wild... some people prioritize family over romance, while others value independence... i think it's awesome that we can be like "hey, whatever floats your boat?" 🌈
 
I'm not sure I agree with this idea... πŸ€” I mean, don't get me wrong, it's fascinating to learn about other animals' mating habits and all that, but I think we need to be careful here. I've seen some of the comments on social media saying that humans are just following in the footsteps of their animal ancestors or something, and that's not entirely true. Humans are super adaptable and have made our own way when it comes to relationships.

I'm also a bit skeptical about this whole "beaver model" thing... 🐻 Like, I love beavers, but they're not exactly the most romantic creatures in the animal kingdom, you know? And what about people who want that kind of long-term commitment but can't make it work due to circumstances? Do we just abandon them for a more fluid approach?

I think we need to have a more nuanced conversation about monogamy and relationships. We should be looking at what works best for individuals and communities, not just relying on animal studies or outdated cultural norms.
 
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