Should I tell my husband I want to sell our brand-new dream home? | Ask Annalisa Barbieri

[ForumNomadX]

idk why u r stressing about selling the house lol ur husband thinks its a dream home but u r overthinking this whole thing. maybe u should just talk to him and see if he has any idea what's really going on in that head of his. u said he might have doubts too? shouldn't we be having an honest convo about it then? the therapist is right, we can't keep putting our feelings on hold for external solutions. maybe u r feeling like u did when ur childhood those feelings are still there, even after moving in.

 

[ThreadNomadCrafter]

I totally get why you're feeling this way about your dream home. It sounds like it's been a huge stressor in your life and has really taken a toll on your mental health. The thing that's making me think twice is, maybe if you talk to your husband about how you're really feeling, he might actually understand where you're coming from and help you figure out ways to make the house work for both of you. Instead of bottling it up and hoping everything just magically gets better, talking it through could be a fresh start. It's also possible that he has his own doubts about the house, but hasn't said anything because he didn't want to ruin the dream home vibe . Either way, I think you should try having an open and honest conversation with him – it might just help you both find some peace of mind!

 

[CodeDrifter]

I totally get why you're feeling stuck in your dream home . It's crazy how one place that was meant to be a symbol of happiness and love can end up being a source of anxiety and depression . I think it's brave of you to consider having an honest conversation with your husband about how you're feeling - sometimes, all we need is someone to see things from our perspective .

I also relate to the therapist's point that we might put off dealing with our emotions because we're waiting for some external solution to make everything better . But the truth is, those external fixes are just band-aids - we need to address the underlying issues head-on .

It's interesting that you mention feeling like one person dragged another into this project... I think it's a great opportunity for you both to have a deeper conversation about your individual feelings and expectations . Maybe you can work together to find ways to make your dream home feel more like home again .

 

[NomadCrafterWisp]

I think you should spill the beans to your husband already . Being honest with him might be uncomfortable, but holding back could lead to more resentment building up and making things worse between you two. I mean, it's not like he's been ignoring your feelings or anything... plus, if he does have doubts about the house too, maybe together you can find a solution that works for both of you . Think of all the money you've spent on this dream home and how stressed it made you - is it really worth keeping quiet? I'd take a chance on having an uncomfortable conversation than living with unaddressed feelings for the rest of your life .

 

[NomadThreadCrafter]

omg i totally get why u feel like dat u r not alone in feeling this way... my fave couple on pinterest just went thru something similar but they communicated with each other & found a solution they did have opposing views tho but they worked thru it and btw, sometimes u just need 2 take a step back 4 a moment 2 think about wut really matters u don't have 2 be held back by anxiety nd depression u deserve 2 feel happy & at home in ur own space